Dr. Oz: Orgasms for Women Over 40 – The Big O

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Dr. Oz’s advice for orgasms (the Big O) for women over 40!  Are you a woman over 40?  You used to have orgasms, but now lost it?  Or maybe you never had it?  Or maybe you just want a better orgasm?  Dr. Oz to the rescue!!!

The anatomy of sex is such that it is basically like an electrical storm that builds up and intensifies until it explodes, and this is what is called an orgasm.  Up to 15% of women have never had an orgasm ever… only 1 in 10 women have orgasms during intercourse… and after you reach the age of 40, a woman’s body changes, your sexuality changes, testosterone levels decrease, estrogen levels decrease and thus vaginal dryness increases.

Dr. Oz brought Dr. Laura Berman, author of The Book of Love, and Dr. Jennifer Ashton, author of The Body Scoop for Girls: A Straight-Talk Guide to a Healthy, Beautiful You, onto his show to teach us how to go from a woman who fakes an orgasm to a woman who has explosive orgasms.  Dr. Oz surveyed his audience and found the following: 62% of the women in Dr. Oz’s audience find it harder to orgasm as they get older, 65% of the women have faked an orgasm, and 25% of the women have never had an orgasm through intercourse (and Dr. Oz suspects this number would be higher if everyone answered and was honest).  Some of this has to do with the perimenopausal tradition and lifestyle issues that constrain a woman’s ability to enjoy sex… keep in mind that for a woman, sex and arousal starts in the brain and goes down, whereas for men is starts from the bottom (his penis) and works its way up.

The Journal of Sexual Medicine had a controversial article on whether the G-Spot exists or not.  The Journal of Sexual Medicine concluded that there is no such thing as a G-Spot because they asked a group of heterosexual women if they had ever found something like the G-Spot, and most of them said no, therefore they decided no such thing exists.  However, this logic is rather silly… if you cannot find your spleen, does it mean it does not exist?  Or maybe you just haven’t found it yet?  Dr. Oz, Dr. Berman and Dr. Ashton do not necessarily agree with this article.  If you think you have found your G-Spot, that is great!  If you aren’t sure it exists, don’t focus on that one small point.  If you want to try and find your G-Spot though, you cannot rely on your partner to find it.  You should find your G-Spot manually or with a sexual aid or device, and then show your partner once you have found it.  A little tip, it should be about 1/3 of the way into your vagina on the side closest to your belly button… and you can try items to help you locate your G-Spot and reach your greatest orgasmic potential!

So what role do hormones play in hurting a woman’s orgasm when they are over 40 years old?  The closer you get to menopause, the less active your ovaries are (which is where 50% of your testosterone comes from), which impacts your libido, and you produce less estrogen, which gives you vaginal dryness (making it painful to have sex).

Lets talk about vaginal dryness first.  Dr. Oz did a demonstration with sponges to show how your vaginal liquids change with age.  When a woman is 20, her vagina produces a very thin, slippery, wet liquid.  At the age of 30, the vaginal liquid becomes thicker and more like jelly.  By a woman’s 40′s, the liquid has become very sticky, with minimal give, which creates a lot of friction when you have sex.  And then when you reach 50, your vagina is basically like a dry sponge.  Do not fear though!  There are lots of over the counter products for vaginal lubrication so that you can continue to have sex (if you stop having sex, you can actually get vaginal atrophy… use it or lose it babe!).  If all of this fails, you can talk to your doctor about some prescription options like the “magic pill” called Vagifem, Estradiol Vaginal Tablets, which are small estrogen tablets that you insert into your vagina like a tampon, and it stays inside for a few weeks to help regulate the estrogen in your vagina.  Another prescription drug is Estring, Estradiol Vaginal Ring, which is a ring that gets inserted your vagina.

A woman’s pelvic floor is also crucial to a good, strong orgasm.  Your pelvic floor holds up all of your reproductive organs, and an orgasm is basically an intense contracting of all of your muscles and organs in that area… so the stronger your pelvic floor, the stronger and better your orgasm will be.  Dr. Oz did a demonstration where the pelvic floor was represented by a hammock hanging above the labia.  In your 20′s, the pelvic floor (or hammock) was nice and taught and supported the vagina well, in your 30′s after having children you can imagine one person lying in the hammock moving it a bit closer to the labia.  By your 40′s there are now 2 people in the hammock, moving your pelvic floor even closer to your labia.  And by your 50′s, when you have gone through menopause, your muscles have become weaker, then your pelvic floor is extremely close to the labia, which pulls your vagina close to the labia as well… thus you lose a lot of traction that you need to have an orgasm.  So what can you do to strengthen your pelvic floor?  Kegal exercises darling!!!  Kegal muscles are the muscles that you use when you go to the bathroom… have you ever tried to stop urinating once you have already started?  These same muscles that you use to stop in mid-flow of urination are your kegal muscles.  To build these  muscles, do not practice stopping urination mid-stream, this can cause urinary tract infections.  Instead, get Kegal Balls. You start by trying to squeeze the Kegal Balls inside of your vagina while lying down. Then try to stand up and hold the Kegal Balls inside of your vagina without them falling out.

Some women consider vaginal regeneration surgery, but this is not generally endorsed by anyone.  You have to ask yourself why you want to get this surgery.  Are you getting it because you are dissatisfied?  Or because your partner is dissatisfied?  How do you know that you are to loose… maybe he is just too small!!!  Gotta love that response!